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quigonejinn) wrote2017-05-09 11:49 am
quigonejinn) wrote2017-05-09 11:49 am
a stew for when it's cold and you're sad and tired
A Stew For When It's Cold and You're Sad and Tired
1 32 ounce container of kimchi, cheap as you please
2-3 pounds meaty pork neck bones
Dump kimchi (including all brine in the container) and pork in stovetop pressure cooker. Seal. Cook on high pressure for 35 minutes. Eat over rice.
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A Stew For When It's Cold and You're Sad and Tired, But Are Feeling A Little More Capable
1/2 white onion, cut in half and with papery bits peeled, but otherwise whole
1 soup carrot, broken in half
1 32 ounce container of kimchi, cheap as you please
2-3 pounds meaty pork neck bones
1 pound crimini mushrooms, whole
6 cloves garlic (peeled, but otherwise whole)
1 thumb-length nob of ginger (cut in half, unpeeled)
2 pieces of rock sugar, just slightly smaller than your thumb
1 package powdered gelatine
cheap-ass fish sauce
soy sauce
Put first two incredients in bottom of stovetop pressure cooker, and saute for 30 minutes while you remove snot from the nose of a shrieking toddler and then get him ready for bed while he shoots you baleful, recriminating looks before finally forgiving you when he gets to suck on his pacifier. Come downstairs, and toss all other into the stovetop pressure cooker. Cook for 35 minutes. Fish out the onion and carrot, because they have given it their all and have turned into pulp.
Eat over rice, or alternatively, fish out the neck bones, pick off the meat beacuse your husband doesn't like gristly bits, toss in a pound of short ribs cut into the individual ribs, and cook on high for 12 minutes while you have a proper Chinese munch on the neck bones.
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I woke up this morning and stupidly checked Facebook, where I saw that an old friend of mine from professional school liked an article about how the border police support the wall. I unfollowed her or wtfever it's called on Facebook, but not before Facebook also showed me how she'd left a comment to an article about Hindus who supported Trump, and where she said somethingl like, "Ugh, another article criticizing non-white Americans who don't stick to the Democratic party line!"
And. I just.
She was one of the very first friends I ever made in real life, not on the Internet, and who I actually felt emotionally close to. We bonded over being Chinese-American in the Midwest, about having felt really out of place in our fancy undergrads, and about the fact that we had both grown up in physically abusive families and had horrendously complicated relationships with our fathers as a result. We used to go to baseball games together. We went to spring training in Arizona together. We split an apartment for a year. When she got married a couple years back, she had three people there in addition to her mom and dad. I was one of them. One of the others was my husband, who was invited as my guest.
Some of the times I've laughed hardest in my entire life have been with her. I've scratched up her car parking. When she went to take her FBI entrance exam, I drove her to Detroit for it, and sat around for a couple hours in the car, waiting for her to be done, and I remember that feeling of sitting around in Detroit, wide-open and vast, and just killing time and waiting for her to come back.
So. Yeah. I think she did not vote for Trump, and I've always known that she was more conservative than me, but I didn't know she was approves-of-a-border-wall or LBERALS ARE TEH REAL INTOLERANCE!!!!!!! conservative.
After finding out, I may have: yelled at my husband, ignored my baby, failed to eat breakfast, gone on a cleaning binge instead of getting to work on time. We have a NO MORE POLITICS AFTER 10:00 PM policy in our house. Mr. Rhod has instituted a NO POLITICS AFTER 10 PM rule. We may have to do a NO FACEBOOK IN BED rule, too.
1 32 ounce container of kimchi, cheap as you please
2-3 pounds meaty pork neck bones
Dump kimchi (including all brine in the container) and pork in stovetop pressure cooker. Seal. Cook on high pressure for 35 minutes. Eat over rice.
...
A Stew For When It's Cold and You're Sad and Tired, But Are Feeling A Little More Capable
1/2 white onion, cut in half and with papery bits peeled, but otherwise whole
1 soup carrot, broken in half
1 32 ounce container of kimchi, cheap as you please
2-3 pounds meaty pork neck bones
1 pound crimini mushrooms, whole
6 cloves garlic (peeled, but otherwise whole)
1 thumb-length nob of ginger (cut in half, unpeeled)
2 pieces of rock sugar, just slightly smaller than your thumb
1 package powdered gelatine
cheap-ass fish sauce
soy sauce
Put first two incredients in bottom of stovetop pressure cooker, and saute for 30 minutes while you remove snot from the nose of a shrieking toddler and then get him ready for bed while he shoots you baleful, recriminating looks before finally forgiving you when he gets to suck on his pacifier. Come downstairs, and toss all other into the stovetop pressure cooker. Cook for 35 minutes. Fish out the onion and carrot, because they have given it their all and have turned into pulp.
Eat over rice, or alternatively, fish out the neck bones, pick off the meat beacuse your husband doesn't like gristly bits, toss in a pound of short ribs cut into the individual ribs, and cook on high for 12 minutes while you have a proper Chinese munch on the neck bones.
...
I woke up this morning and stupidly checked Facebook, where I saw that an old friend of mine from professional school liked an article about how the border police support the wall. I unfollowed her or wtfever it's called on Facebook, but not before Facebook also showed me how she'd left a comment to an article about Hindus who supported Trump, and where she said somethingl like, "Ugh, another article criticizing non-white Americans who don't stick to the Democratic party line!"
And. I just.
She was one of the very first friends I ever made in real life, not on the Internet, and who I actually felt emotionally close to. We bonded over being Chinese-American in the Midwest, about having felt really out of place in our fancy undergrads, and about the fact that we had both grown up in physically abusive families and had horrendously complicated relationships with our fathers as a result. We used to go to baseball games together. We went to spring training in Arizona together. We split an apartment for a year. When she got married a couple years back, she had three people there in addition to her mom and dad. I was one of them. One of the others was my husband, who was invited as my guest.
Some of the times I've laughed hardest in my entire life have been with her. I've scratched up her car parking. When she went to take her FBI entrance exam, I drove her to Detroit for it, and sat around for a couple hours in the car, waiting for her to be done, and I remember that feeling of sitting around in Detroit, wide-open and vast, and just killing time and waiting for her to come back.
So. Yeah. I think she did not vote for Trump, and I've always known that she was more conservative than me, but I didn't know she was approves-of-a-border-wall or LBERALS ARE TEH REAL INTOLERANCE!!!!!!! conservative.
After finding out, I may have: yelled at my husband, ignored my baby, failed to eat breakfast, gone on a cleaning binge instead of getting to work on time. We have a NO MORE POLITICS AFTER 10:00 PM policy in our house. Mr. Rhod has instituted a NO POLITICS AFTER 10 PM rule. We may have to do a NO FACEBOOK IN BED rule, too.
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I also have a couple friends who whenever they post something political have some nutjobs come into their comments and shit all over them. I don't understand how they stay friends with these people. (Relatedly, one of my Chinese-Canadian-American local friends, who is very liberal, is friends with a literal white supremacist. It's baffling to me.)
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Yeah, I think the groundwork for my rage flareup was laid last night, when I saw a really heartfelt thing on my timeline from a woman who miscarried and then had to fight with the insurance company about how the follow-up D&C needed to be covered, and how she then had some cancer-like growths that were surgically removed, and she was now fine, but how if those growths ever came back, she was going to end up bankrupt because just that surgery cost $80K.
And after this incredibly moving, incredibly personal post (which I'll admit to being super sensitive to because hey, babies, hey spouse with cancer), the VERY FIRST COMMENT to the post was apparently a friend who was literally like 'don't worry ur blessed and the senate will never pass the bill lol'
I wish I was exaggerating the shittiness of the comment for comedic effect, but I'm not. And I think that was even helpfully meant, but oh boy, I think I need to not be on facebook. Finally, a social media platform more enraging than Tumblr!
is friends with a literal white supremacist
lolwut
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And yeah, super-basic, stripped down kimchi jjigae is exactly what this is! I tend to use neck bones rather than the traditional pork belly because using pork belly this way makes the stew a little oily for my taste, and the neck bones not only have less fat/are cheaper than pork belly in my neck of the woods, but mean I don't have to use stock. And have enough substance on them so that I can put off looking to see whether that package of tofu in the back of the fridge really is expired...
Did your desktop connectivity issues get resolved? I saw your post on it the other day.
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(And that story hits me between the eyes because I had the exact. same. issue. with needing a D&C after a miscarriage, and the idea that someone has to fight for that when they are REALLY KINDA GOING THROUGH MORE THAN FUCKING ENOUGH is making me lose it. FUCK.)
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But I'm sorry this happened to you. It's always so beyond disappointing to find out that someone you love and admire very much and with whom you have a long history isn't the person you thought they were.
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People think they can hide behind not actually voting for him as if they are absolved of their complicity in this shit show. I have one of them in my office. She couldn't bring herself to vote for HRC because OMG EMAILS and she didn't vote for Trump but she wrote in THE POPE. THE FUCKING POPE. And she thinks she's off the hook. Well, fuck no, you're not.
This. Shit. Is. Binary.