I try to be aware of how these things can effect people

You are therefore totally a better lj'er than I. It's very easy to blunder ahead all OMGZ TONY'S PARENTS ARE DEAD LET'S TALK ABOUT HOW AWESOME THAT MAKES HIM! Because, you know, serious thoughts about real life are silly, and who needs them? But, really, thanks for even asking, and don't let it worry you at all.