That's who Tony is to me, at his core, a guy who can't admit there are somethings he can't control, that there are somethings that are just not fair, that sometimes you can lose both your parents at once and there was nothing you could have done about it, that there are things, simply, beyond your grasp.

UTTERLY YES. If I'm ever stuck for writing Tony, I just look at the situation and think, "this is a guy who has never failed to solve a problem. this is a guy who never failed until he was shown that he'd actually been failing every single day, from the start. this is a guy whose world view is being attacked from every angle, but he's solving the problem. he's building his way out of it."

Yeah, I'm really annoying and meta and listy even in my own head.