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A Stew For When It's Cold and You're Sad and Tired

1 32 ounce container of kimchi, cheap as you please
2-3 pounds meaty pork neck bones


Dump kimchi (including all brine in the container) and pork in stovetop pressure cooker.  Seal.  Cook on high pressure for 35 minutes. Eat over rice.

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A Stew For When It's Cold and You're Sad and Tired, But Are Feeling A Little More Capable

1/2 white onion, cut in half and with papery bits peeled, but otherwise whole
1 soup carrot, broken in half
1 32 ounce container of kimchi, cheap as you please
2-3 pounds meaty pork neck bones
1 pound crimini mushrooms, whole
6 cloves garlic (peeled, but otherwise whole)
1 thumb-length nob of ginger (cut in half, unpeeled)
2 pieces of rock sugar, just slightly smaller than your thumb
1 package powdered gelatine
cheap-ass fish sauce
soy sauce

Put first two incredients in bottom of stovetop pressure cooker, and saute for 30 minutes while you remove snot from the nose of a shrieking toddler and then get him ready for bed while he shoots you baleful, recriminating looks before finally forgiving you when he gets to suck on his pacifier.  Come downstairs, and toss all other into the stovetop pressure cooker.  Cook for 35 minutes.  Fish out the onion and carrot, because they have given it their all and have turned into pulp.

Eat over rice, or alternatively, fish out the neck bones, pick off the meat beacuse your husband doesn't like gristly bits, toss in a pound of short ribs cut into the individual ribs, and cook on high for 12 minutes while you have a proper Chinese munch on the neck bones. 

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I woke up this morning and stupidly checked Facebook, where I saw that an old friend of mine from professional school liked an article about how the border police support the wall.  I unfollowed her or wtfever it's called on Facebook, but not before Facebook also showed me how she'd left a comment to an article about Hindus who supported Trump, and where she said somethingl like, "Ugh, another article criticizing non-white Americans who don't stick to the Democratic party line!"

And.  I just. 

She was one of the very first friends I ever made in real life, not on the Internet, and who I actually felt emotionally close to.  We bonded over being Chinese-American in the Midwest, about having felt really out of place in our fancy undergrads, and about the fact that we had both grown up in physically abusive families and had horrendously complicated relationships with our fathers as a result.  We used to go to baseball games together.  We went to spring training in Arizona together.  We split an apartment for a year.  When she got married a couple years back, she had three people there in addition to her mom and dad.  I was one of them.  One of the others was my husband, who was invited as my guest. 

Some of the times I've laughed hardest in my entire life have been with her.  I've scratched up her car parking.  When she went to take her FBI entrance exam, I drove her to Detroit for it, and sat around for a couple hours in the car, waiting for her to be done, and I remember that feeling of sitting around in Detroit, wide-open and vast, and just killing time and waiting for her to come back. 

So.  Yeah.  I think she did not vote for Trump, and I've always known that she was more conservative than me, but I didn't know she was approves-of-a-border-wall or LBERALS ARE TEH REAL INTOLERANCE!!!!!!! conservative.

After finding out, I may have: yelled at my husband, ignored my baby, failed to eat breakfast, gone on a cleaning binge instead of getting to work on time.  We have a NO MORE POLITICS AFTER 10:00 PM policy in our house.  Mr. Rhod has instituted a NO POLITICS AFTER 10 PM rule.  We may have to do a NO FACEBOOK IN BED rule, too.

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Date: 2017-05-09 07:24 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] marmolita
I have found from reading facebook that some people are easily swayed by clickbait and the content of their own social media feed. One of my husband's aunts started posting crazy shit on facebook, then after his uncle (not her husband, a different uncle) started posting clickbaity stuff on the other end of the political spectrum, so did she. I don't really understand how people can swing around like that.

I also have a couple friends who whenever they post something political have some nutjobs come into their comments and shit all over them. I don't understand how they stay friends with these people. (Relatedly, one of my Chinese-Canadian-American local friends, who is very liberal, is friends with a literal white supremacist. It's baffling to me.)

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Date: 2017-05-09 08:45 pm (UTC)
neotoma: Bunny likes oatmeal cookies [foodie icon] (foodie-bunny)
From: [personal profile] neotoma
That first one sounds a quick, simplified version of kimchi jjigae, which is definitely something lovely to have when you're cold and tired... I should go see if I have pork belly in the freezer and make some...

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Date: 2017-05-10 01:52 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] obsession_inc
I'm so sorry you found out that your friend was a douche, politically. All the stuff you had with her was still real! and probably still is! but. I think that IRL people can be friends and talk about stuff with people who disagree with them, but on Facebook this becomes utterly impossible. It turns into a thousand tiny betrayals that Facebook helpfully broadcasts to you, and it wears you down until you just can't take it anymore. I fucking hate it, and I'm so sorry it got you.

(And that story hits me between the eyes because I had the exact. same. issue. with needing a D&C after a miscarriage, and the idea that someone has to fight for that when they are REALLY KINDA GOING THROUGH MORE THAN FUCKING ENOUGH is making me lose it. FUCK.)

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Date: 2017-05-10 03:21 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] eirene
Honestly, the older I get, the happier I am to be rid of Facebook. I was one of the first non-Harvard students to have one, and I deleted it back in January 2013 in a fit of pique after getting a lecture from a long-time friend's (douchey, condescending, mansplainy, "he's Dutch so sometimes he's more abrupt because English isn't his first language") boyfriend for daring to complain about someone on my own account who was never going to see it or hear about it. Now I have no idea what former coworkers or classmates think about anything and my blood pressure is truly much better for it.

But I'm sorry this happened to you. It's always so beyond disappointing to find out that someone you love and admire very much and with whom you have a long history isn't the person you thought they were.

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Date: 2017-05-12 08:00 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] black_hound
Man, sorry to hear about that bullshit. These are times when you get to truly know the depth of a person's character, or their true lack thereof. I've told scores of people to just fuck right off if I even get a whiff of Trump or any sort of Republicanism.

People think they can hide behind not actually voting for him as if they are absolved of their complicity in this shit show. I have one of them in my office. She couldn't bring herself to vote for HRC because OMG EMAILS and she didn't vote for Trump but she wrote in THE POPE. THE FUCKING POPE. And she thinks she's off the hook. Well, fuck no, you're not.

This. Shit. Is. Binary.
Edited Date: 2017-05-12 08:00 pm (UTC)

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